Abuse in love that is both mental and narcissistic.
When your partner flirts with someone else while sitting next to you, or when your mother criticises everything you do, or when your boss privately compliments you while publicly humiliating you, these are all examples of mental and narcissistic abuse. But what does this form of abuse actually entail?
Recognising mental abuse and manipulation by a narcissist can be challenging. This type of abuse stems from a dynamic between two individuals; on the one hand, a narcissist tries to maintain a sense of control and reinforce his self-esteem. On the other hand, the victim may unconsciously feed this dynamic by idolising the narcissist and constantly seeking their validation.
Narcissism can be likened to a pernicious malady that preys on our deepest fears, desires and anxieties. Persuasion behind the words of those we trust and admire can make it challenging to remain distinctive. And when we fall in love with the narcissist, it becomes even harder to stick to our own perception of the truth.
There are different types of narcissists.
Narcissism can manifest itself in different forms. Below are some examples of the different forms narcissists can embody.
If you find it difficult to identify the exact problem with a nice narcissist or nice woman.
The "nice guy/girl" narcissist is someone who wants to appear reasonable and nice, but makes no effort to stand up for themselves. This type of person creates the illusion that they respect you and your opinions, while at the same time making you feel insecure about yourself. If you are in a relationship with such a narcissist, you may regularly experience confusion and feelings of rejection and disrespect. Nevertheless, it can be difficult to identify the source of these negative emotions.
Someone engaging in bullying behaviour often uses guilt and withholding as tactics.
This particular form of narcissism is obviously trickier than the above types because it is easier to identify. Your counterpart may engage in tirades, display condescending behaviour, manipulate your emotions to induce guilt, or refuse to communicate with you at all. Clearly, being subjected to this kind of treatment is unpleasant for you.
Anyone can exhibit manipulative behaviour if you pay close attention. So be wary of immediately labelling someone a lighter, but beware of the alarm bells in your head. If something doesn't feel right, try talking to people around you and people you trust.
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